The party guide

Boys, girls, and the mixed list you probably have

How PartyHop tags children's party venues for boys, girls or mixed groups, and why the tag is a sorting hint rather than a rule.

Most good parties are mixed

Most good parties are mixed, and most venues on PartyHop are tagged that way. A few are marked 'often booked for boys' or 'often booked for girls' because that is the pattern — digger parks on one side, pottery and bear-making on the other. The tag is a sorting hint for when the guest list really does lean. It is not a rule about who may walk in.

If your child wants the thing the other tag describes, book that thing. A girl who wants a digger does not need a tiara party to make the numbers look right. Use the filter to float a type of day, then read the review.

The guest list you have, not the one in the advert

Party adverts are photographed with one kind of child because marketing departments are lazy. The building does not check. A zoo party, a farm party, a museum workshop and a trampoline hour all work for a mixed list if the ages match. What fails is a party built around a single character that half the children do not care about.

If you are buying party bags, buy the same bag for everyone. Splitting 'boy bags' and 'girl bags' at the door is how you discover, in public, that you guessed wrong. One decent object — a torch, a figure, a pot of dough — does not need a gender.

When a lean is useful

Sometimes the list really does lean. Ten boys who asked for diggers, or a small group who asked to paint pots. The filter is for that afternoon, so you are not scrolling past thirty bowling alleys to find the one workshop. It is not a verdict on the children.

Read the age band after you read the tag. A 'boys' trampoline park that starts at eight is the wrong building for a five-year-old, whoever he is.